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Thursday, May 16, 2013

HOP AGAINST HOMOPHOBIA AND TRANSPHOBIA








IT STARTS AT HOME, FOLKS.

As adults, we teach our kids to walk, talk, read and write. We also teach our kids right from wrong (in most cases) and we teach them what is acceptable in behaviour, when to speak up and when to be respectfully quiet.

Well, that's what I teach my kids.

It doesn't always go to plan, I'll admit.  Unfortunately, inheriting traits like being stubborn and short-tempered, and only having so many hours in a day is factored into this equation and sometimes there are nuclear reactions with vein-pulsing-in-my-forehead melt-downs. 

But all in all, we do okay.

I'm not proclaiming to be an inductee of the Mother of the Year award (because I have two kids who would do themselves an injury from laughing so hard if I did) but there's something I also teach my kids... and that's tolerance.

Imma let you all in on a little secret. 

Hate or intolerance of any kind is not inherited. 

It is taught.



I'm sure psychiatrists call it something technical, like 'environmental behavioural science' but whatever... To me, it's just plain old monkey see, monkey do. 

Kids hate because they're taught to hate. They're taught somewhere along the way, that it's okay, that what they do, what they are, is better than someone else. And then those kids grow up to become teens who hate, who inevitably become adults, who hate. 

And it's not just homophobia. It's not just racism. It's not just religious discrimination.

It's all forms of intolerance. 

Thinking someone is stupid, or inferior to you, because of the books they read, the TV shows they like, the clothes they wear, are all forms of intolerance. 

So next time someone in your house says someone is 'stupid' or 'lame' or whatever, for supporting a different football team, or liking a certain band or singer or driving a certain kind of car, stop and think...

What exactly are you condoning?

Intolerance is intolerance, no matter what it's disguised as. 

And none of it's acceptable. 

If kids think it's okay to hate someone because of the football team they support, or the clothes they wear, then they're learning that it's okay to hate someone for any other reason. 

And it needs to stop. It needs to stop with our kids, so they can teach their kids, and the cycle of hate stops. 

I'll leave you with something Nelson Mandela once said...




So, let's spread the word on Homophobia and Transphobia.  The m/m community is a fabulous place to start. 

May 17th - 27th is when we blog hop to celebrate tolerance and share experiences. 

Thank you for dropping by, and as a show of appreciation, I'd like to offer a copy each of Blind Faith and Through These Eyes to one lucky person who comments on my blog post. To enter, follow my blog if you're not already, leave a smiley face in the comments and then hop along to another blog and read what that author has to say.  I'll draw a random winner on the 27th. 


The link to the Blog Hop page is http://hopagainsthomophobia.blogspot.com/ 











24 comments:

  1. You took the words right out of my mouth. It is taugh. Great post! :-D

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  2. I love that so many people are working together to put a stop to hate.
    :-) Sara svblix@gmail.com

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  3. LOVE THIS POST!!!...and that picture of the babies...!!!!

    GAH! Thanks for this Nic!

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  4. Great post! No mom of the year awards here either, lol! But, I could not agree more that hate is taught .... And baby wearing dads, swooooooon!

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  5. Thank you for taking part in the hop! :)

    In order to combat hatred, we must spread love. Educate others, bring awareness, because every person who has their mind opened is one person closer to a world where homophobia and transphobia doesn’t exist.

    kimberlyFDR@yahoo.com

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    1. Hi Kimberly,

      Your number was randomly chosen as the winner of my two books, Blind Faith and Through These Eyes!!

      I'll be in touch with you shortly.

      Thanks for participating in the blog hop to raise awareness.

      Hugs
      Nic

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  6. Fabulous post!!
    I couldn't agree with you more. Children are what they know... it's that simple.

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  7. My elderly parents are very racially biased. I won't even go in to how homophobic they are. It's interesting though, they know they're wrong, but just can't change.

    I struggle with being judgmental, but I've tried to teach my kids acceptance.

    My kids can not even begin to see their grandparents point of view.

    I hope this is a trend. That it is getting better with each generation. I hope. But we still have to make the effort every day.

    Great post, because it really, really does begin at home.

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  8. Wow, what a terrific post, N.R.!
    Here's to the day that we no longer have a need for a Hop Against Homophobia and Transphobia!
    ~Cody

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  9. :) There's you smiley face! I have also signed up for your newsletter and have hopped over to many many blogs on this hop. Thank you for the opportunity to win and participating in the hop.

    Thanks
    Karl
    slats5663(at)shaw(dot)ca

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  10. Great post! I couldn't agree more! Hopefully there are more children out there growing up in loving and open-minded homes!

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  11. That was an awesome post. It is so true that more children need to be taught acceptance. Thanks for sharing and participating in the hop.

    Beth
    JPadawan11@gmail.com

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  12. Thank you for the wonderful post. I can't agree more with what you said. Kids pick up so much from parents, peers, the media, etc. We have to be the role models that teach them by example.

    humhumbum AT yahoo DOT com

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  13. What you said was so true. Hatred is taught not born inside of us. Thank you so much for your post and participating in this amazing hop!

    sophiebonaste@gmail.com

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  14. Thanks for the great post and hop.
    cvsimpkins@msn.com

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  15. You are right it is learned but then there are those of us who rebelled. As soon as I was out of the religious obsessed, bigoted home that I grew up in I blossomed and became the worst of the worst a democrat. A lot of my transformation probably had a lot to do with becoming involved in the women's movement of the 60s. I raised my girls differently and I see that in how they are raising their kids as well. Thanks for hopping. :)

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  16. "Hate or intolerance of any kind is not inherited." It's true...I was raised in a house that didn't know better. My mother was raised to be bigoted and racist...but I broke that mold. :) And I'm proud to say that my mother and some of my family members are better for it. *nods* it's easier to love than hate.

    morris.crissy@gmail.com

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  17. :) ;) :D The children are never the ones that are intolerant. Thanks so much for your post in this blog hop! Such an important subject.
    OceanAkers @ aol.com

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  18. Great post! Thank you for taking part in the hop!
    sstrode at scrtc dot com

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  19. Thank you for the post.

    peggy1984 at live dot com

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  20. Thanks for the great post!
    Follow GFC as Emily

    tiger-chick-1(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  21. Following with GFC as Penumbra

    Thanks for participating in this great hop! :)

    penumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com

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  22. Thanks to everyone who participated!!

    Huge hugs to you all!!

    *mwah*

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